When your friends begin to flatter you on how young you look, it’s a sure sign you’re getting old. Seat back and enjoy this article as it presents you pretty good tips to make your life more pleasurable.
Tips To Make Your Life More Pleasurable
The following are things you need to know to tread soft of life’s path:
RELEASE YOURSELF FROM RIGHTS
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living.
The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”
When you are young your mom and dad may give a lot of things. As you grow older you may have a sort of entitlement. You may feel like the world should just give you what you want or that it owes you something.
This mentality can cause a lot of anger and frustration in your life. Because the world may not give you what you expect it to. On the other hand, this can be liberating too. You realize that it is up to you to shape your own life and for you to work towards what you want. You are not a child anymore, waiting for your parents or the world to give you something. You are in the driver’s seat now. And you can go pretty much wherever you want.
EXPECT REACTIONS IF YOU’RE TAKING A DIFFERENT PATH
“A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”
This has quite a bit of relevance to self-improvement. If you start to change or do something different than you usually do then people may react in different ways. Some may be happy for you. Some may be indifferent. Some may be confused or react in negative and discouraging ways.
How they feel about themselves is coming through in the words they use and judgements they make. And that’s okay. I think it’s pretty likely that they won’t react as negatively as you may imagine. Or they will probably at least go back to focusing on their own challenges pretty soon.
So what other people may say and think and letting that hold you back is probably just fantasy and barrier you build in your mind. You may find eventually when you finally cross that inner threshold you created then people around you may just stay okay.
KEEP YOUR FOCUS STEADILY ON WHAT YOU WANT
“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles…
by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.”
What you pay attention on greatly determines how things play out. You can focus on your problems and dwell in suffering and a victim mentality. Or you can focus on the positive side of any situation. Maybe what you can learn from that situation or just focus your mind on something entirely else.
It may be human to dwell on problems and swim around in a sea of negativity. But that is a choice and a habitual thought. You may reflexively start to dwell on problems instead of refocusing your mind on something more useful. But you can also start to build a habit of learning to gain more and more control of where you put your focus.
DON’T FOCUS SO MUCH ON MAKING YOURSELF FEEL GOOD
“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”
This is a great way to look at things to create an upward spiral of positivity and exchange of value between people. You help someone and both of you feel good. The person you helped feels inclined to give you a hand some other time since people tend to want to reciprocate. And so the both of you are feeling good and helping each other.
Those positive feelings are attractive to other people and so you may end up making them feel happy too. And the help you received from your friend may inspire you to go and help another friend. And so the upward spiral grows and continues.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you so did. To have life more pleasurable, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Do what you want to do. Explore. Dream. Discover.